Ever since I was a little girl I have been dreaming about my wedding day and thinking about my future husband. I have been wanting to find my husband for years now and have been waiting for him for years. I pray for him daily and hope that God is turning him into the man that he needs to be for me. I know that God is making him the best he can be for me and that is why I haven’t found him yet.
Here are the eighteen things that every Christian girl needs in her husband:
1. Boldness
Every girl wants a man who is bold. She doesn’t want a man who is hesitant, she wants a man who will take action and isn’t afraid to move forward.
”Now, Lord, consider their threats and enable your servants to speak your word with great boldness.” – Acts 4:29
2. Humility
Every girl wants a man who is humble. She doesnt want someone who is full of himself and a complete jerk, thinking he is better than everyone else. She wants someone who can hold his head high and who is proud of the man that he is.
“But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” – James 4:6
3. Gentle
We all want a man who is gentle and understanding with us. We do not want someone who will always act out of anger. We need someone who is gentle and kind hearted.
“Instead, we were like young children among you. Just as a nursing mother cares for her children” – 1 Thessalonians 2:7
4. Strong
We need a man who is strong, not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally. We need someone who has a good head on his shoulders and is level headed, someone who can help lift the weight when life gets too heavy at times. We need someone who will care for us and help protect us.
“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power” – Ephesians 6:10
5. Generous
Every girl wants a man who will put others before himself, who is kind and giving and generous towards others.
“Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously” – 2 Corinthians 9:6
6. Patience
A man who is patient is so important. He will have patience for you when you need it most. We do not need a man who is short tempered or easily angered.
“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope.” – Romans 5:3-4
7. Dependable
We need someone that we can rely on. Someone who always keeps their words, whose actions match their words and go above and beyond their expectations. Someone that we can trust wholeheartedly.
“who despises a vile person but honors those who fear the Lord;who keeps an oath even when it hurts, and does not change their mind. – Psalm 15:4
8. Truthful
Every girl needs a man who will always tell the truth, even when it is difficult. If the truth hurts more than the lie, he will still tell the truth because it will always come out eventually.
“Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.” – Ephesians 4:25
9. Attentive
Every girl needs someone who will pay attention to her and listen when she needs to be heard, someone who is on her side at all times. We need someone who will be present in our lives.
“We must pay the most careful attention, therefore, to what we have heard, so that we do not drift away” – Hebrews 2:1
10. Faithful
We need someone who will stay faithful to us. Who will stay faithful to his family and to his wife, someone who will keep his vows and live by his promises.
“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see” – Hebrews 11:1
11. Discretion
Every girl needs someone who thinks before he acts, who is careful with both his words and his actions.
“The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty” – Proverbs 22:3
12. Responsible
We need someone who can hold himself accountable and takes responsibility for his actions and owns up to his mistakes.
“So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God” – Romans 14:12
13. A Man Who Loves God
A man who loves the Lord will also love his wife. He will help her grow in her faith and they will grow closer to God together.
“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself” – Ephesians 5:28
14. A Man Who Is a Spiritual Leader
Every Christian girl needs a Godly man who will help lead her towards God. He will help lead their marriage in the right path. Those who grow closer to God, will also grow closer together and have a happier marriage.
“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” – Ephesians 5:23-24
15. A Man Who Is Considerate
A Christian girl needs a man who is considerate of others and considerate of his wife. He will think of her wants and her needs and help her in her time of need.
“ not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” – Philippians 2:4
16. A Man With a Good Work Ethic
Every girl wants a man who works hard and will be able to provide for her and her family. She does not want someone who slacks off and procrastinates his work. She needs someone who will get work done and work hard for the things he wants.
“Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth. He who gathers crops in summer is a prudent son, but he who sleeps during harvest is a disgraceful son.” – Proverbs 10:4-5
17. A Man That Is Slow to Anger
Every girl needs a man who is understanding and patient. She does not want a man who is easily angered and can easily lose his temper. She needs someone who is strong and can handle his anger in a healthy way.
“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” – Proverbs 22:24-25
18. A Man That Is Wise With Money
Every woman needs to marry a man who knows how to properly handle his money. She needs to know that she will be financially secure and that he will not be spending every last dime on useless things. She needs someone who will be smart with their money and knows how to provide for her and his family.
“The wise store up choice food and olive oil, but fools gulp theirs down.” – Proverbs 21:20
These are just a few of the many things that I look for in a husband and think that all these things are important for every girl to look for when she is trying to find her husband. Consider these things while dating and think of how important they are to you. Does your significant other hold the same values as you? Is he a Godly man? These are some big things to think about when dating and when you want to get married.
